Spilling your "T" can mean many diferent things to us girls. Sometimes it is not so easy to spill your "T", especially when it is to someone you like...alot. Here at TransCEND we talk about the different ways of spilling or sharing your "T" and what the "T" means for each of us. 

Here is what some girls have to say about spilling "T".

"Being a woman for me isn’t about what’s between my legs. Some girls give me shade but I enjoy fucking my partners. When I do, these are my rules. I only fuck men who I know see me as a woman. I tell them what turns me on and what turns me off, how they can touch me, what terms I like for my body. For me condom use during anal sex, whether I’m giving or taking, isn’t up for debate. If you are going to be with me, condoms and talking about who and what we are doing is part of the package. It took me a long time, and a lot of men.., to come to that place of take me or leave me, but I’m here and I like here."

"I haven’t been with anyone or dated in years. After I finally got my SRS and am getting use to being in this body, I’m curious and want to get out there. I’ve found myself being attracted to other woman, other transwoman, and have no idea how to figure that out. I do a lot of on-line reading and know there might be different risks and things I have to consider with dilating and continuing to heal. It’s kind of exciteing to think about being sexual or intimate as the new me. It’s also really scary but I’ve been through so much to get here."

"Listen, I know I’m supposed to say I use condoms all the time with my tricks but I don’t. I’ve been living with HIV for 10 years. I keep my regular clients who are also positive but if a guy is going to give me $100 extra to fuck without them, it ain’t easy. Anyone who says otherwise must not have been in the situations of trying to figure out where they are going to sleep safe and deal with the day in day out of being in the life. Do I disclose? Sure – it doesn’t happen like it does in the movies though, it’s more of a “you know what’s up right” kind of thing. All I can say is I do the best I can on streets that would sooner see me dead."

"I know I’m lucky. I don’t have the sad story of being kicked out of my family and have been able to make it through okay. I’ve been with the same guy for four years and he’s seen me through a lot. We have a good and respectful relationship. I’m confident we are only sexual with each other. It’s not always easy for us in public though. There are times where I get clocked –people whisper “is that a man” or look at us like we are weird when I present my license that still has the “M” on it. At the end of the day, we are all dealing with the same struggles of just trying to be ourselves and deal with people’s ignorance. I don’t take for granted having that support at home – I hope I can be there for another girl."

"Are there girls who don’t spill their T? Sure – but most of those men who say ‘they didn’t know” are full of it. They come looking specifically for T-girls and are into us in the sheets but not on the streets. I’m tired of seeing and hearing about girls like Gwen Araujo who are getting beat and murdered and listening to people making them into the victim."

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